There is evidence that smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, and using marijuana is a strong precursor to serious drug addiction. The pathway that leads to addiction often begins with cigarettes and alcohol. This does not mean that all who smoke cigarettes use drugs or used to use drugs. However, when children smoke, it can be an early sign of rebellious behavior. This is especially true if your family does not smoke.
When children start experimenting with drugs they usually begin with those that don't seem very dangerous to them. Typically this involves alcohol and marijuana. Once the thrill of these drugs wears off, kids will often move on to drugs like speed, LSD [acid], and PCP. Later on, if experimentation develops into addiction, kids may move onto cocaine and heroin.
Teens use alcohol and other drugs for many reasons. They may do it because they want to fit in socially, they like the way drugs or alcohol makes them feel, or they want to feel more grown up. Teens tend to be risk-takers, and they may take drugs or drink because it seems exciting. Teens who are at the biggest risk for developing serious alcohol or drug problems include those with family members who have problems with alcohol or other drugs. Also, teens who feel that they are not connected to or valued by their parents or who have poor self-esteem or emotional or mental health problems (such as depression) are at increased risk.
Teens may try a variety of substances, including cigarettes, alcohol, household chemicals (inhalants), prescription and nonprescription medications, and illegal drugs (most commonly marijuana).
Substance abuse can increase risk-taking behaviors, which can have serious consequences. Alcohol and drug abuse is a leading cause of teen death or injury related to car accidents, suicides, violence, and drowning. Substance abuse can increase the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases resulting from unprotected sexual activity.
Teen substance abuse can have a negative impact on self-esteem, relationship skills, physical and emotional independence, and future plans. As a result, teen drug or alcohol problems may lead to difficulty building meaningful personal relationships or holding a job.
Some drugs produced today are extremely potent, and even casual use of certain substances such as heroin or cocaine can cause severe medical problems, such as overdose or brain damage. Teens who try highly addictive drugs such as cocaine, methamphetamine, or heroin run an increased risk of becoming dependent (addicted). In addition, many illegal drugs today are made in backyard labs, so they can vary greatly in potency and can easily become contaminated with bacteria, dangerous chemicals, and other unsafe substances.
If the person is using alcohol or drugs, you may notice changes in behavior and mood at home, in grades and attitude toward school, and in friends and leisure activities. You may also find evidence such as cigarettes or drugs in your teen's possession, chemical-soaked rags or papers in the trash, or paint or other stains on his or her clothing, hands, or face. The smell of smoke or alcohol on your teen's clothing or breath may also indicate a substance abuse problem.
Friday, March 23, 2007
what makes a good boyfriend?!
What makes a good boyfriend?
I bet many women wished they knew to ask this question. A good boyfriend respects you as an equal. He shows his respect by being interested in what you say. And he treats you the same when his friends are around as when he's with you alone.
You can trust him to do what he says, like call you if he says he'll call. He makes you feel good about yourself-all of you, how smart you are, what you look like, the things you like to do. He doesn't pressure you for sex or cheat on you. He never physically hurts you and, if he hurts your feelings, he says he's sorry and really works hard never to do it again.
A good boyfriend demonstrates the kind of values that are important to you, like genuineness, honesty, and loyalty (he doesn't go out with other girls behind your back!). The way your boyfriend treats you is very important. Can you and your boyfriend communicate? Can you share feelings about important things with him? Do you trust him not to tell other people secrets you may have shared with him? Does he share his thoughts and feelings with you? A good boyfriend should be sensitive to your feelings and understanding of you.
Can you be yourself around your boyfriend, or do you feel that you are always putting on a show for him? Being able to be relaxed and natural with your boyfriend means that there is a lot of mutual acceptance between the two of you. Does your boyfriend show you affection in ways that you like, such as holding your hand or putting his arm around you? A good boyfriend will treat you as an equal and respect your wishes about important matters. He will understand the word "no," especially about sex. He will also be OK when you want to spend time with your family or friends. A good boyfriend won't smother you and demand all of your time.
A good boyfriend is someone who loves you (you will know if he does because you'll get that feeling.) Also, if you need something, he doesn't mind doing it for you. Don't be confused though, you can't say a boyfriend is a bad one because he doesn't call you like he said he would. Trust me, boys just don't think about that kind of stuff: unlike girls. Basically, if he treats you well, respects your beliefs and needs, and is there for you when you need him, he is a good boyfriend.
Another "must" is a good sense of humor. Does your boyfriend make you laugh, and do you have fun with him? Boyfriends are more fun if they share similar interests and like to do some of the things you like to do. Remember, in choosing a boyfriend, there are a lot of great guys out there, so don't settle for less than you want and deserve. Don’t just get that certain guy because he’s the only one there either.
I bet many women wished they knew to ask this question. A good boyfriend respects you as an equal. He shows his respect by being interested in what you say. And he treats you the same when his friends are around as when he's with you alone.
You can trust him to do what he says, like call you if he says he'll call. He makes you feel good about yourself-all of you, how smart you are, what you look like, the things you like to do. He doesn't pressure you for sex or cheat on you. He never physically hurts you and, if he hurts your feelings, he says he's sorry and really works hard never to do it again.
A good boyfriend demonstrates the kind of values that are important to you, like genuineness, honesty, and loyalty (he doesn't go out with other girls behind your back!). The way your boyfriend treats you is very important. Can you and your boyfriend communicate? Can you share feelings about important things with him? Do you trust him not to tell other people secrets you may have shared with him? Does he share his thoughts and feelings with you? A good boyfriend should be sensitive to your feelings and understanding of you.
Can you be yourself around your boyfriend, or do you feel that you are always putting on a show for him? Being able to be relaxed and natural with your boyfriend means that there is a lot of mutual acceptance between the two of you. Does your boyfriend show you affection in ways that you like, such as holding your hand or putting his arm around you? A good boyfriend will treat you as an equal and respect your wishes about important matters. He will understand the word "no," especially about sex. He will also be OK when you want to spend time with your family or friends. A good boyfriend won't smother you and demand all of your time.
A good boyfriend is someone who loves you (you will know if he does because you'll get that feeling.) Also, if you need something, he doesn't mind doing it for you. Don't be confused though, you can't say a boyfriend is a bad one because he doesn't call you like he said he would. Trust me, boys just don't think about that kind of stuff: unlike girls. Basically, if he treats you well, respects your beliefs and needs, and is there for you when you need him, he is a good boyfriend.
Another "must" is a good sense of humor. Does your boyfriend make you laugh, and do you have fun with him? Boyfriends are more fun if they share similar interests and like to do some of the things you like to do. Remember, in choosing a boyfriend, there are a lot of great guys out there, so don't settle for less than you want and deserve. Don’t just get that certain guy because he’s the only one there either.
are you boy crazy?
It's more than OK to like boys and to want to have a boyfriend—most girls do. "Boy crazy," though, means that a girl is overly concerned about meeting boys and getting a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend is more important to her than anything else. She is preoccupied with boy watching and boys' opinions to the exclusion of everything else.
Some girls are boy crazy because they need a lot of attention and aren't getting it from home, especially from their fathers. Others need boys to provide some of the qualities they need and want but think they can't get for themselves, like power (he will protect her all the time) or status (thinking people will admire her because of who her boyfriend is) or independence (he has a car and can give her a ride somewhere or an excuse to get out of her house for awhile). Girls who are boy crazy often have not developed their own identity and don't have a life of their own. Unfortunately, these girls don't invest their time in finding out who they are and don't develop their own abilities and interests. Instead, they give up their own development for the pursuit of boys. Sadly, girls who are boy crazy just don't think they are as important as having a boyfriend is.
If you have a friend who is boy crazy, try talking to her. Or even show her this book. It might get her thinking.
There's lots of pressure to hook up with a guy. There's a hidden message in our society that a girl is not OK if she is not interested in a relationship with a guy. In fact, for most teenage girls, having a boy friend really boosts their self-confidence. But having a boyfriend shouldn't be the only way to feel happy and secure. Girls who are boy crazy are driven to have a boyfriend as if their lives depended on it. They forget about finding other ways to make themselves feel important and valuable, and they often lose out on developing their interests, talents, and friendships with other girls. Being boy crazy means you're missing out on too many other things. It's like having a one-track mind. You can't see anything else, even yourself.
When a girl has a mad crush on a boy, evidence can inevitably be found on her notebook – her first name written with his last name or a hyphen joining her last name to his. Eventually, however, it goes beyond the notebook. Boy-crazy girls might get up the confidence to send him instant messages and e-mails, and they might go so far as to record love songs and leave them on a boy's answering machine.
Even when it's not with a boy, most teen girls love to chat on the phone or on the Internet, but parents may want to have a heart-to-heart discussion about communication etiquette – especially when boys are involved. Teen girls have become increasingly more assertive than their female role models of an older generation. They are more likely to initiate phone calls, dates and even insist on having sex.
Middle and high school girls know being assertive helps them succeed in leadership roles. Therefore, they might be confused when their assertiveness is not readily accepted by a romantic interest.
Being boy crazy is also often a matter of having too much romantic energy. I have read that some parents would let their daughters watch soap operas or read romantic novels instead of calling their crushes from a cell phone 50 times a day or inventing screen names to talk anonymously to him on the Internet.
Some girls are boy crazy because they need a lot of attention and aren't getting it from home, especially from their fathers. Others need boys to provide some of the qualities they need and want but think they can't get for themselves, like power (he will protect her all the time) or status (thinking people will admire her because of who her boyfriend is) or independence (he has a car and can give her a ride somewhere or an excuse to get out of her house for awhile). Girls who are boy crazy often have not developed their own identity and don't have a life of their own. Unfortunately, these girls don't invest their time in finding out who they are and don't develop their own abilities and interests. Instead, they give up their own development for the pursuit of boys. Sadly, girls who are boy crazy just don't think they are as important as having a boyfriend is.
If you have a friend who is boy crazy, try talking to her. Or even show her this book. It might get her thinking.
There's lots of pressure to hook up with a guy. There's a hidden message in our society that a girl is not OK if she is not interested in a relationship with a guy. In fact, for most teenage girls, having a boy friend really boosts their self-confidence. But having a boyfriend shouldn't be the only way to feel happy and secure. Girls who are boy crazy are driven to have a boyfriend as if their lives depended on it. They forget about finding other ways to make themselves feel important and valuable, and they often lose out on developing their interests, talents, and friendships with other girls. Being boy crazy means you're missing out on too many other things. It's like having a one-track mind. You can't see anything else, even yourself.
When a girl has a mad crush on a boy, evidence can inevitably be found on her notebook – her first name written with his last name or a hyphen joining her last name to his. Eventually, however, it goes beyond the notebook. Boy-crazy girls might get up the confidence to send him instant messages and e-mails, and they might go so far as to record love songs and leave them on a boy's answering machine.
Even when it's not with a boy, most teen girls love to chat on the phone or on the Internet, but parents may want to have a heart-to-heart discussion about communication etiquette – especially when boys are involved. Teen girls have become increasingly more assertive than their female role models of an older generation. They are more likely to initiate phone calls, dates and even insist on having sex.
Middle and high school girls know being assertive helps them succeed in leadership roles. Therefore, they might be confused when their assertiveness is not readily accepted by a romantic interest.
Being boy crazy is also often a matter of having too much romantic energy. I have read that some parents would let their daughters watch soap operas or read romantic novels instead of calling their crushes from a cell phone 50 times a day or inventing screen names to talk anonymously to him on the Internet.
premarital sex
The reality is that most teens will have sex. In fact, it's estimated that only one in five children will not have sex while in their teens. And a sexually-active teen who does not use contraception has a startling 90 percent chance.
"Is it ok to have premarital sex?" That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Maybe you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.
Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to have premarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it." In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird to even question it.
But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head that is making you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right or wrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can you know if your "conscience" is right?
Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to. Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24? Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases. Take these statistics into consideration when making your decision.
Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as a primary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experience unnecessary emotional pain!
When we say “premarital sex”, we often focus on the "recreation" aspect of it. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God, our Creator, designed it that way. It may be hard to think of God creating sex, but He did! In His plan, sex was designed for married couples to enjoy the pleasure and excitement of sexual relations. The primary purpose of sex is not recreation, but rather re-creation. In other words, sex is for reproduction. Imagine, for a moment, a world without premarital sex. There would be no sexually-transmitted diseases, there would be no un-wed mothers, there would be no unwanted pregnancies, there would be no abortions, etc. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly abstinence honors God. You all might be shocked with this, but it’s all true, right?
"Is it ok to have premarital sex?" That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Maybe you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.
Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to have premarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it." In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird to even question it.
But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head that is making you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right or wrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can you know if your "conscience" is right?
Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to. Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24? Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases. Take these statistics into consideration when making your decision.
Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as a primary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experience unnecessary emotional pain!
When we say “premarital sex”, we often focus on the "recreation" aspect of it. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God, our Creator, designed it that way. It may be hard to think of God creating sex, but He did! In His plan, sex was designed for married couples to enjoy the pleasure and excitement of sexual relations. The primary purpose of sex is not recreation, but rather re-creation. In other words, sex is for reproduction. Imagine, for a moment, a world without premarital sex. There would be no sexually-transmitted diseases, there would be no un-wed mothers, there would be no unwanted pregnancies, there would be no abortions, etc. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly abstinence honors God. You all might be shocked with this, but it’s all true, right?
*What a UP student is not
There’s no one-word that completely describes a UP student, no not even “activist”! *laugh*
*scoff* how do I start this? Well, I guess I could start off by saying that being a student is pretty darn challenging.
I guess it really isn’t a shocker if different groups form in schools. I think if you really observe the people, you would be able to distinguish which groups certain people belong to. I and some of my friends have observed some already.
One group that was the most evident was the “Nanings” as we call them. As UPians, they aren’t really that adventurous when it comes to going out and when it comes to love and stuff like that. I think they’d rather study then do that. But I’m not saying they wouldn’t, but, I don’t think it’s at the top of their list, you know? They seem like the childish ones who don’t really focus on fixing themselves and boys, which I sometimes I get jealous of! Honestly!
We also have those who are insanely addicted to computer games!!! We obviously know who they are! I think they could go days without food and play PC games instead. *long pause* oh wait, I take it back. Food is really important to them. They could all play for hours and hours. If only they could just play nonstop I think they would. As a UP student, we are not rich, so we have to budget our money, really well. But one thing I’m amazed with these “Computer Addicts” is that they practically play more than they study but their grades are still so amazingly high!! I wish I could be like that! *gr*
There are also the “Outspoken” ones. Those people who say what they feel. Those people who aren’t afraid to fight for what they think is right. And when they find out that others talk bad behind their back, they confront them and tell them how they feel about it. I think people like this would make great leaders. It’s just some of them just don’t realize it. They just need to develop their skills. Oh ya, another thing, they are very spontaneous in and out of class. They seem to never be scared to speak in front of the class. Lucky them!
Then we have those people who are just plain crazy! They take things so lightly and seem to have no problems at all. They look so relaxed. I usually don’t usually see them frowning. They’re always on the go to have fun and ride in the current. They seem like they have no enemies or bad feelings towards other people. They usually are the life of the party, the people who also never stop talking!
Then we have the “Party People”. They may not seem like this in school, but they have this whole grooving’ life. They are those whose priorities are pretty different from the “Nanings”, probably the complete opposite. I guess they love going out and chilling, not worrying about things (even though there’s a lot to worry about). I guess you could call them the rebels? Not the Goth-Emo kind though. Just those who are given a ton of rules but never listen to them, even though they know it isn’t right? *grin* They express themselves through fashion? Am I right? I don’t know. I’m not sure about that.
There are the athletes. Well, what school doesn’t have them? We all know who they are. They’re the sporty ones, usually made up of really cute guys *big smile*. And there are pretty girls in this too. I don’t know what else to say because we all know what athletes are already. One last thing I could say though is that you could probably find them chilling or playing in the covered court (or in the open field).
There are also those people who don’t like to be noticed, don’t talk a lot to people. I’m not saying they’re loners but I guess they’re just not the kind of people who’d socialize. I don’t really know.
Oh my God. Now, that I’m really thinking about this, I just realized that there are a lot more!! Way way more! The things I said weren’t facts. They were how I saw the people in our school. But even though we may have our own groups, we all fall into one category: UPian. As UPians we are never really on time for things and we like doing things on at the last minute. We are not time conscious. Really! *lol*
We don’t get to relax as much as we want because our schedules are just so packed!! So whatever time off we get, we really make good use for it to have some fun!
Even though as a UP student my social life out of school is “ZERO”, I still enjoy the time I get to spend with my classmates and friends. I realized that though UPians have all those flaws, we still have that one good thing in common, BRAINS! *LOL!!*
Si? *big2x smile*
*scoff* how do I start this? Well, I guess I could start off by saying that being a student is pretty darn challenging.
I guess it really isn’t a shocker if different groups form in schools. I think if you really observe the people, you would be able to distinguish which groups certain people belong to. I and some of my friends have observed some already.
One group that was the most evident was the “Nanings” as we call them. As UPians, they aren’t really that adventurous when it comes to going out and when it comes to love and stuff like that. I think they’d rather study then do that. But I’m not saying they wouldn’t, but, I don’t think it’s at the top of their list, you know? They seem like the childish ones who don’t really focus on fixing themselves and boys, which I sometimes I get jealous of! Honestly!
We also have those who are insanely addicted to computer games!!! We obviously know who they are! I think they could go days without food and play PC games instead. *long pause* oh wait, I take it back. Food is really important to them. They could all play for hours and hours. If only they could just play nonstop I think they would. As a UP student, we are not rich, so we have to budget our money, really well. But one thing I’m amazed with these “Computer Addicts” is that they practically play more than they study but their grades are still so amazingly high!! I wish I could be like that! *gr*
There are also the “Outspoken” ones. Those people who say what they feel. Those people who aren’t afraid to fight for what they think is right. And when they find out that others talk bad behind their back, they confront them and tell them how they feel about it. I think people like this would make great leaders. It’s just some of them just don’t realize it. They just need to develop their skills. Oh ya, another thing, they are very spontaneous in and out of class. They seem to never be scared to speak in front of the class. Lucky them!
Then we have those people who are just plain crazy! They take things so lightly and seem to have no problems at all. They look so relaxed. I usually don’t usually see them frowning. They’re always on the go to have fun and ride in the current. They seem like they have no enemies or bad feelings towards other people. They usually are the life of the party, the people who also never stop talking!
Then we have the “Party People”. They may not seem like this in school, but they have this whole grooving’ life. They are those whose priorities are pretty different from the “Nanings”, probably the complete opposite. I guess they love going out and chilling, not worrying about things (even though there’s a lot to worry about). I guess you could call them the rebels? Not the Goth-Emo kind though. Just those who are given a ton of rules but never listen to them, even though they know it isn’t right? *grin* They express themselves through fashion? Am I right? I don’t know. I’m not sure about that.
There are the athletes. Well, what school doesn’t have them? We all know who they are. They’re the sporty ones, usually made up of really cute guys *big smile*. And there are pretty girls in this too. I don’t know what else to say because we all know what athletes are already. One last thing I could say though is that you could probably find them chilling or playing in the covered court (or in the open field).
There are also those people who don’t like to be noticed, don’t talk a lot to people. I’m not saying they’re loners but I guess they’re just not the kind of people who’d socialize. I don’t really know.
Oh my God. Now, that I’m really thinking about this, I just realized that there are a lot more!! Way way more! The things I said weren’t facts. They were how I saw the people in our school. But even though we may have our own groups, we all fall into one category: UPian. As UPians we are never really on time for things and we like doing things on at the last minute. We are not time conscious. Really! *lol*
We don’t get to relax as much as we want because our schedules are just so packed!! So whatever time off we get, we really make good use for it to have some fun!
Even though as a UP student my social life out of school is “ZERO”, I still enjoy the time I get to spend with my classmates and friends. I realized that though UPians have all those flaws, we still have that one good thing in common, BRAINS! *LOL!!*
Si? *big2x smile*
Thursday, March 22, 2007
65 things you guys need to know about us
1. Don't ever lie to us, we always find out.
2. We don't enjoy talking dirty as much as much as you enjoy listening
3. Don't say you understand when you don't
4. Girls are pretty, but yours is the prettiest.
5. You don't have PMS; don't act like you know what its like.
6. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.
7. We absolutely DO NOT care about monster trucks, car systems, paintball or anything else you and your friends talk about.
8. Size does matter, but only to w****s; not girls that want relationships.
9. We don't like it when you act like Mr. Big
10. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
11. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a w****s.
12. Its good to be sensitive, sometimes.
13. If you did something wrong or even if you didn't, apologize.
14. Be spontaneous; dinner and a movie won't always cut it.
15. We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it.
16. We are drama queens.
17. Shave! no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or moustache looks, we hate it.
18. You have to tell a girl how you feel about her...we make no assumptions.
19. We will always think we are fat; so humor us and tell us we aren't.
20. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
21. It never hurts to work out...take your own advice.
22. Girls like sex just as much, if not more than guys.
23. We hate porn.
24. Hmmmm...guys in pick-ups...yummmm...
25. Girls need food, water, and compliments to survive.
26. We think about you all the time.
27. Being able to make us laugh is so much more important than how much you can lift weights.
28. We may think you are gay if you enjoy planning your outfits ahead of time.
29. Hold our hand.
30. Girls generally don't like to cook all the time, you can get off your lazy butt and cook something too.
31. We are not your all-night restaurant.
32. Anything we say or do during that 4 days to a week each month cannot be held against us.
33. If you hold our hand while you are driving we will be thoroughly impressed...especially if it's a stick.
34. Under no circumstances will we have a threesome.
35. You look hot in hooded outfits.
36. Having us over while you and your friends play video games does not count as "quality time".
37. We hate it when you‘re with us and then give more attention to your friends or you game
38. Never say a girl is fat.
39. Keep in mind that we withhold sex when we're mad at you, so you might want to get around to apologizing...
40. You just can't force us to like sports...especially those associated with the WWF.
41. We're typically smarter than you...so get over it and stop whining when we get better grades than you.
42. The ability to play the guitar or drums will help you get laid.
43. We're sorry, Jesse MetCalfe is just SO hot...get over it!!!
44. Walks in the rain, kisses on the forehead, and cooking dinner for us will get you everywhere.
45. If you're developing such good finger skills playing video games, you better put them to good use sometimes.
46. Anything you do or say to another girl that you wouldn't want us to know about is considered cheating.
47. If we can admit that we're wrong, you'd better be able to do the same.
48. The excuse "I can't dance" is unacceptable...we'll appreciate the simple fact that you're trying.
49. On that note, if you refuse to dance, expect us to dance with other guys...and lots of them.
50. Think before you speak...it'll make a world of difference.
51. Not all girls kiss on the first date, get over it...we're creatures of mystery.
52. Make fun of our clothes...prepare to die!
53. We don't always expect you to pay for us, but it doesn't hurt to at least offer everyone once in a while.
54. Tell us we're beautiful.
55. The "little things" in a relationship are really the biggest. Remember that.
56. Foreplay isn't something we should have to ask for...it's a prerequisite.
57. Don't screw us over...especially if we have an older brother or protective guy friends...they will hunt you down and kill you.*grin*
58. If you're going to look at other girls, at least make sure we don't see you do it.
59. Just because we're still just "hanging out" doesn't make it ok to sleep with your ex-girlfriend, friend with benefits, etc.
60. No girl just wants to be your "friend with benefits".
61. We're sensitive too...be gentle (and we're not talking about our hearts here guys).
62. One word when it comes to smoking...QUIT.
63. We deserve the right to hate all of your ex-girlfriends.
64. If we happen to trip, fall, etc, while wearing the exceptionally high shoes that we love, go ahead and laugh...we will be...that is unless we hurt ourselves...
Lastly..
65. Don't always be over protective it is the 20th century, women can do things for themselves.
So guys, GOT IT!?! P=0)
2. We don't enjoy talking dirty as much as much as you enjoy listening
3. Don't say you understand when you don't
4. Girls are pretty, but yours is the prettiest.
5. You don't have PMS; don't act like you know what its like.
6. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.
7. We absolutely DO NOT care about monster trucks, car systems, paintball or anything else you and your friends talk about.
8. Size does matter, but only to w****s; not girls that want relationships.
9. We don't like it when you act like Mr. Big
10. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
11. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a w****s.
12. Its good to be sensitive, sometimes.
13. If you did something wrong or even if you didn't, apologize.
14. Be spontaneous; dinner and a movie won't always cut it.
15. We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it.
16. We are drama queens.
17. Shave! no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or moustache looks, we hate it.
18. You have to tell a girl how you feel about her...we make no assumptions.
19. We will always think we are fat; so humor us and tell us we aren't.
20. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
21. It never hurts to work out...take your own advice.
22. Girls like sex just as much, if not more than guys.
23. We hate porn.
24. Hmmmm...guys in pick-ups...yummmm...
25. Girls need food, water, and compliments to survive.
26. We think about you all the time.
27. Being able to make us laugh is so much more important than how much you can lift weights.
28. We may think you are gay if you enjoy planning your outfits ahead of time.
29. Hold our hand.
30. Girls generally don't like to cook all the time, you can get off your lazy butt and cook something too.
31. We are not your all-night restaurant.
32. Anything we say or do during that 4 days to a week each month cannot be held against us.
33. If you hold our hand while you are driving we will be thoroughly impressed...especially if it's a stick.
34. Under no circumstances will we have a threesome.
35. You look hot in hooded outfits.
36. Having us over while you and your friends play video games does not count as "quality time".
37. We hate it when you‘re with us and then give more attention to your friends or you game
38. Never say a girl is fat.
39. Keep in mind that we withhold sex when we're mad at you, so you might want to get around to apologizing...
40. You just can't force us to like sports...especially those associated with the WWF.
41. We're typically smarter than you...so get over it and stop whining when we get better grades than you.
42. The ability to play the guitar or drums will help you get laid.
43. We're sorry, Jesse MetCalfe is just SO hot...get over it!!!
44. Walks in the rain, kisses on the forehead, and cooking dinner for us will get you everywhere.
45. If you're developing such good finger skills playing video games, you better put them to good use sometimes.
46. Anything you do or say to another girl that you wouldn't want us to know about is considered cheating.
47. If we can admit that we're wrong, you'd better be able to do the same.
48. The excuse "I can't dance" is unacceptable...we'll appreciate the simple fact that you're trying.
49. On that note, if you refuse to dance, expect us to dance with other guys...and lots of them.
50. Think before you speak...it'll make a world of difference.
51. Not all girls kiss on the first date, get over it...we're creatures of mystery.
52. Make fun of our clothes...prepare to die!
53. We don't always expect you to pay for us, but it doesn't hurt to at least offer everyone once in a while.
54. Tell us we're beautiful.
55. The "little things" in a relationship are really the biggest. Remember that.
56. Foreplay isn't something we should have to ask for...it's a prerequisite.
57. Don't screw us over...especially if we have an older brother or protective guy friends...they will hunt you down and kill you.*grin*
58. If you're going to look at other girls, at least make sure we don't see you do it.
59. Just because we're still just "hanging out" doesn't make it ok to sleep with your ex-girlfriend, friend with benefits, etc.
60. No girl just wants to be your "friend with benefits".
61. We're sensitive too...be gentle (and we're not talking about our hearts here guys).
62. One word when it comes to smoking...QUIT.
63. We deserve the right to hate all of your ex-girlfriends.
64. If we happen to trip, fall, etc, while wearing the exceptionally high shoes that we love, go ahead and laugh...we will be...that is unless we hurt ourselves...
Lastly..
65. Don't always be over protective it is the 20th century, women can do things for themselves.
So guys, GOT IT!?! P=0)
mean girls?
At recess one day Madison's teacher found her sitting alone at lunch, looking sad and upset. She could barely bite the peanut butter sandwich that she usually couldn't wait to eat. "What's the matter, Madison?" the teacher asked.
Madison burst into tears. "My best friend Allie is sitting with Cleo and her little group of friends, and they just voted me off their lunch table and won't let me be their friend. Even Allie won't stand up for me!"
Later that afternoon, Trevor was standing alone by the basketball court after school. Trevor's mom asked him why he didn't go play with Zack and Steve, who were shooting hoops. Trevor told his mom he just didn't feel like it, so they walked home. But the truth was, Trevor and Madison were facing the same problem: They both felt left out. Kids who were their friends yesterday weren't their friends today. What happened?
So, what are cliques, you may be asking? Everyone feels left out by friends once in a while. And sometimes friends fight and make up again. But sometimes kids form groups that they won't let other kids belong to. A clique is a group of kids who hang out together and won't let others join in.
Not all groups of friends are cliques. The thing that makes a group a clique is that they leave some kids out on purpose. Usually one or two popular kids control who gets to be in the group and who gets left out. Kids may act much differently than they did before they were part of the clique.
For instance, Trevor and Steve always played basketball after school. But Zack started pushing Trevor out of the group, and now even Steve was saying mean stuff to Trevor. Same with Madison and Allie. They used to have sleepovers all the time, but now Cleo was hosting the sleepovers, and she didn't invite Madison.
Kids might form cliques late in elementary school or in middle school. Sometimes cliques are made of kids who share an interest in something, like sports or music. Sometimes the kids in them just want to be popular or want to belong. Both boys and girls have cliques, though people who study these groups say girl cliques are often meaner and more hurtful in the way they treat girls who aren't in the group.
If you are on the outside of a clique, it really hurts. Emotional hurt is different than the kind of hurt you feel when you skin your knee, but it's a kind of pain and it can feel awful. You might cry or want to yell mean things at the people in the clique. You might feel lonely if you're alone at lunch or after school. You might be frustrated or upset because you don't know what to do. You might feel down on yourself because of not being picked to belong. You might feel hurt because of the ways other kids keep you out.
Probably the hardest part of dealing with a clique is how bad it feels if a friend becomes part of a clique and starts treating you differently. Sometimes, the problem starts with an argument between the two of you. But other times you can find yourself on the outside of a clique, even if nothing happened.
Kids who fall into cliques might want to be popular and feel cool. Sometimes kids think that belonging to a clique will keep them from feeling left out. Or that it guarantees them friends. Some kids feel flattered to be let into a clique. They may feel better about themselves by being in when others are out.
Kids in cliques sometimes act differently than they would outside the group. They often go along with what the others are doing, even if they know it's not right. Even if it means leaving out a friend. They might feel bad about it, but they can't figure out how to be cool and still be nice to the person who's not in the clique. This is no excuse, though. Plenty of kids manage to be nice to everyone - kids in and outside their closest group of friends - without being part of a clique.
Sometimes kids in cliques find that they don't really want to belong to it anymore. They don't want to be bossed around by the rules of the clique, and they don't want to leave others out and hurt people's feelings. Sometimes they realize they are missing out on being friends with great kids outside of the clique.
Oh ya, but in other cases, there really isn’t a clique, it’s just, like a group. But everyone just seems so dang intimidated by them. Intimidated by the way they act, dress and talk. But you’ll never know who they really are unless you try and get to know them, right?
As we get older, we usually outgrow the need to be part of a clique. For others this takes a while. Most cliques have disappeared by the end of high school, making way for more mature and enjoyable friendship groups.
Madison burst into tears. "My best friend Allie is sitting with Cleo and her little group of friends, and they just voted me off their lunch table and won't let me be their friend. Even Allie won't stand up for me!"
Later that afternoon, Trevor was standing alone by the basketball court after school. Trevor's mom asked him why he didn't go play with Zack and Steve, who were shooting hoops. Trevor told his mom he just didn't feel like it, so they walked home. But the truth was, Trevor and Madison were facing the same problem: They both felt left out. Kids who were their friends yesterday weren't their friends today. What happened?
So, what are cliques, you may be asking? Everyone feels left out by friends once in a while. And sometimes friends fight and make up again. But sometimes kids form groups that they won't let other kids belong to. A clique is a group of kids who hang out together and won't let others join in.
Not all groups of friends are cliques. The thing that makes a group a clique is that they leave some kids out on purpose. Usually one or two popular kids control who gets to be in the group and who gets left out. Kids may act much differently than they did before they were part of the clique.
For instance, Trevor and Steve always played basketball after school. But Zack started pushing Trevor out of the group, and now even Steve was saying mean stuff to Trevor. Same with Madison and Allie. They used to have sleepovers all the time, but now Cleo was hosting the sleepovers, and she didn't invite Madison.
Kids might form cliques late in elementary school or in middle school. Sometimes cliques are made of kids who share an interest in something, like sports or music. Sometimes the kids in them just want to be popular or want to belong. Both boys and girls have cliques, though people who study these groups say girl cliques are often meaner and more hurtful in the way they treat girls who aren't in the group.
If you are on the outside of a clique, it really hurts. Emotional hurt is different than the kind of hurt you feel when you skin your knee, but it's a kind of pain and it can feel awful. You might cry or want to yell mean things at the people in the clique. You might feel lonely if you're alone at lunch or after school. You might be frustrated or upset because you don't know what to do. You might feel down on yourself because of not being picked to belong. You might feel hurt because of the ways other kids keep you out.
Probably the hardest part of dealing with a clique is how bad it feels if a friend becomes part of a clique and starts treating you differently. Sometimes, the problem starts with an argument between the two of you. But other times you can find yourself on the outside of a clique, even if nothing happened.
Kids who fall into cliques might want to be popular and feel cool. Sometimes kids think that belonging to a clique will keep them from feeling left out. Or that it guarantees them friends. Some kids feel flattered to be let into a clique. They may feel better about themselves by being in when others are out.
Kids in cliques sometimes act differently than they would outside the group. They often go along with what the others are doing, even if they know it's not right. Even if it means leaving out a friend. They might feel bad about it, but they can't figure out how to be cool and still be nice to the person who's not in the clique. This is no excuse, though. Plenty of kids manage to be nice to everyone - kids in and outside their closest group of friends - without being part of a clique.
Sometimes kids in cliques find that they don't really want to belong to it anymore. They don't want to be bossed around by the rules of the clique, and they don't want to leave others out and hurt people's feelings. Sometimes they realize they are missing out on being friends with great kids outside of the clique.
Oh ya, but in other cases, there really isn’t a clique, it’s just, like a group. But everyone just seems so dang intimidated by them. Intimidated by the way they act, dress and talk. But you’ll never know who they really are unless you try and get to know them, right?
As we get older, we usually outgrow the need to be part of a clique. For others this takes a while. Most cliques have disappeared by the end of high school, making way for more mature and enjoyable friendship groups.
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