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*Love is a Fallacy

Seeing the title, I thought it would all mushy and all lovey-dovey, but to my surprise it really wasn’t. I actually learned a lot from it. At the beginning of the story, I started to get so aggravated with the man who was telling the story. He was so full of himself. He spoke like he knew everything. He was so full of pride. His roommate on the other hand was I guess his complete opposite. He was such a couch potato. One thing in this story that made me want to jump right into the story and smack those guys’ heads was when they made that deal. The deal wherein the Petey chose that insignificant product of torture over Polly!! That made me so furious. I hate guys like that. If he really didn’t care for Polly as much as that raccoon coat, he shouldn’t have “deceived” her that he was really into her. And what was his reason for passionately wanting that coat? Because everyone else had it! And he just wanted to be like everyone else, he wanted to fit in. Oh ya, that was another contrast between him and the one who told the story. Anyway, moving on. A lot of people now a days are like Petey Bellows. We often hear kids now whining: "But MOM everyone's wearing it!" Or, how many times have you heard this: "But DAD I've got to go to the party, everybody will be there. I've just got to! "Behind all of this is the driving need to "belong" and the intolerable fear of being "alone." To say it another way, we are social animals. We have to be around people. We go "crazy" when isolated, over time, from all human contact. We must see and be seen. Talk and be listened to. Touch and be touched. Smile and be smiled at. Laugh together. Share. But sometimes things like this get out off hand, when pressure comes around. "Peer pressure" is what holds the group together. "Peer pressure" is what creates the required attire, slang, and behavior of a group. "Peer pressure" is the price we will pay for being "accepted" into the group. Belonging is a good thing and of course it’s normal but if we have to practically change who we are just to fit in, then that isn’t right already.
We all know we want to be accepted and to belong to a group of friends. I know I want to have that. But also, I want to feel good about myself. And forcing myself, changing the real me just to be someone’s friend isn’t going to do it. Because no matter if I take a 360-degree change, I’d still know deep down in me that they don’t really like me for me. Like Petey Bellows. What happens when he loses his raccoon coat? What happens to those things he took advantage of? Like Polly Espy, whose only reason why she went steady with him at the end was because of that coat? Well, I guess some people like it that way. Some people are blinded by all the material things in this world that they forget about the more important things in people, like how true one can be to himself.

*A Summary of Max Schulman's "Love Is a Fallacy"

This story is about this 18-year-old boy. Very keen, calculating, perspicacious, acute, and astute. Not a lot of men his age were as intellectual as him. Take for example his roommate, Petey Bellows. A complete dumbbell.

This one afternoon the guy found Petey lying on his bed with some weird look on his face. He immediately thought it was appendicitis. But to his surprise, it was something less then that.

“Raccoon”, he mumbled.

He wanted a raccoon coat because everyone else had it! Such a faddist. He kept whining about how he should have known that it was going to come back in style.

"All the Big Men on Campus are wearing them”, he said continuing his complaints. As for the guy, he didn’t care about being in the swim with everybody else.

Petey would give up anything for a raccoon coat maybe even Polly Espy, this girl he went out with who “excited his emotions.” It just so happened the guy knew where to get a raccoon coat. His dad had one when he was younger and it’s now kept in their attic.

He wanted her and Petey wanted the coat. It was a fair deal. He could give the coat to Petey in exchange with a date with Polly. Not long after he told Petey about what he wanted, Petey agreed.

That evening the guy took Polly out on their first date. Just great, another complete dumbbell. But he though to himself: It is, after all, easier to make a beautiful dumb girl smart than to make an ugly smart girl beautiful. They first went out for dinner, to a movie, then he took her home. Though her choice of words like delish, marvy and sensaysh, wasn’t as delightful as how she looked, he was still determined to make her the woman of his dreams. He had to teach her how to think. On their next date, he wanted to have a talk, about logic. He taught her about the different fallacies. Dicto Simpliciter, Hasty Generalization, Post Hoc and Contradictory Premises were the first few fallacies he discussed on their second date which left Polly confused after every explanation. He was ready to give up until he thought to himself that if he does, then he just wasted one evening. Why not waste another evening, maybe she’d get it the next time. Though he was running out of hope, he gave it another shot.

The next evening still under the same oak tree he taught about Ad Misericordiam, False Analogy and Hypothesis Contrary. Same old reactions. Still a dumbbell. When he taught her the last fallacy, Poisoning the Well, to his surprise she was able to get it. She was able to answer his questions right. It took him five strenuous night to get Polly to think! And he was proud that he finally has the girl of his dreams. His job was done. She was worthy of him at last. He started to express how he really felt for her, but to his shocker, she used all the fallacies she learned against him. He professed his love for her, but she still used them against him. He had no way out. He couldn’t believe his eyes that this girl was out smarting him. Though he was mortified by everything, he finally asked her if she would go steady with him. Polly, without even a second thought, said “no”. “Why?”, he asked her. The reason was because she promised Petey Bellows that she’d go steady with him that afternoon. He was taken aback.

Petey Bellows? After he promised and made a deal?
How could he?! Well, it wasn’t his fault he had a raccoon coat!

dangerous to your health mother!

There is evidence that smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, and using marijuana is a strong precursor to serious drug addiction. The pathway that leads to addiction often begins with cigarettes and alcohol. This does not mean that all who smoke cigarettes use drugs or used to use drugs. However, when children smoke, it can be an early sign of rebellious behavior. This is especially true if your family does not smoke.
When children start experimenting with drugs they usually begin with those that don't seem very dangerous to them. Typically this involves alcohol and marijuana. Once the thrill of these drugs wears off, kids will often move on to drugs like speed, LSD [acid], and PCP. Later on, if experimentation develops into addiction, kids may move onto cocaine and heroin.
Teens use alcohol and other drugs for many reasons. They may do it because they want to fit in socially, they like the way drugs or alcohol makes them feel, or they want to feel more grown up. Teens tend to be risk-takers, and they may take drugs or drink because it seems exciting. Teens who are at the biggest risk for developing serious alcohol or drug problems include those with family members who have problems with alcohol or other drugs. Also, teens who feel that they are not connected to or valued by their parents or who have poor self-esteem or emotional or mental health problems (such as depression) are at increased risk.
Teens may try a variety of substances, including cigarettes, alcohol, household chemicals (inhalants), prescription and nonprescription medications, and illegal drugs (most commonly marijuana).
Substance abuse can increase risk-taking behaviors, which can have serious consequences. Alcohol and drug abuse is a leading cause of teen death or injury related to car accidents, suicides, violence, and drowning. Substance abuse can increase the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases resulting from unprotected sexual activity.
Teen substance abuse can have a negative impact on self-esteem, relationship skills, physical and emotional independence, and future plans. As a result, teen drug or alcohol problems may lead to difficulty building meaningful personal relationships or holding a job.
Some drugs produced today are extremely potent, and even casual use of certain substances such as heroin or cocaine can cause severe medical problems, such as overdose or brain damage. Teens who try highly addictive drugs such as cocaine, methamphetamine, or heroin run an increased risk of becoming dependent (addicted). In addition, many illegal drugs today are made in backyard labs, so they can vary greatly in potency and can easily become contaminated with bacteria, dangerous chemicals, and other unsafe substances.
If the person is using alcohol or drugs, you may notice changes in behavior and mood at home, in grades and attitude toward school, and in friends and leisure activities. You may also find evidence such as cigarettes or drugs in your teen's possession, chemical-soaked rags or papers in the trash, or paint or other stains on his or her clothing, hands, or face. The smell of smoke or alcohol on your teen's clothing or breath may also indicate a substance abuse problem.

what makes a good boyfriend?!

What makes a good boyfriend?
I bet many women wished they knew to ask this question. A good boyfriend respects you as an equal. He shows his respect by being interested in what you say. And he treats you the same when his friends are around as when he's with you alone.
You can trust him to do what he says, like call you if he says he'll call. He makes you feel good about yourself-all of you, how smart you are, what you look like, the things you like to do. He doesn't pressure you for sex or cheat on you. He never physically hurts you and, if he hurts your feelings, he says he's sorry and really works hard never to do it again.
A good boyfriend demonstrates the kind of values that are important to you, like genuineness, honesty, and loyalty (he doesn't go out with other girls behind your back!). The way your boyfriend treats you is very important. Can you and your boyfriend communicate? Can you share feelings about important things with him? Do you trust him not to tell other people secrets you may have shared with him? Does he share his thoughts and feelings with you? A good boyfriend should be sensitive to your feelings and understanding of you.
Can you be yourself around your boyfriend, or do you feel that you are always putting on a show for him? Being able to be relaxed and natural with your boyfriend means that there is a lot of mutual acceptance between the two of you. Does your boyfriend show you affection in ways that you like, such as holding your hand or putting his arm around you? A good boyfriend will treat you as an equal and respect your wishes about important matters. He will understand the word "no," especially about sex. He will also be OK when you want to spend time with your family or friends. A good boyfriend won't smother you and demand all of your time.
A good boyfriend is someone who loves you (you will know if he does because you'll get that feeling.) Also, if you need something, he doesn't mind doing it for you. Don't be confused though, you can't say a boyfriend is a bad one because he doesn't call you like he said he would. Trust me, boys just don't think about that kind of stuff: unlike girls. Basically, if he treats you well, respects your beliefs and needs, and is there for you when you need him, he is a good boyfriend.

Another "must" is a good sense of humor. Does your boyfriend make you laugh, and do you have fun with him? Boyfriends are more fun if they share similar interests and like to do some of the things you like to do. Remember, in choosing a boyfriend, there are a lot of great guys out there, so don't settle for less than you want and deserve. Don’t just get that certain guy because he’s the only one there either.

are you boy crazy?

It's more than OK to like boys and to want to have a boyfriend—most girls do. "Boy crazy," though, means that a girl is overly concerned about meeting boys and getting a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend is more important to her than anything else. She is preoccupied with boy watching and boys' opinions to the exclusion of everything else.
Some girls are boy crazy because they need a lot of attention and aren't getting it from home, especially from their fathers. Others need boys to provide some of the qualities they need and want but think they can't get for themselves, like power (he will protect her all the time) or status (thinking people will admire her because of who her boyfriend is) or independence (he has a car and can give her a ride somewhere or an excuse to get out of her house for awhile). Girls who are boy crazy often have not developed their own identity and don't have a life of their own. Unfortunately, these girls don't invest their time in finding out who they are and don't develop their own abilities and interests. Instead, they give up their own development for the pursuit of boys. Sadly, girls who are boy crazy just don't think they are as important as having a boyfriend is.
If you have a friend who is boy crazy, try talking to her. Or even show her this book. It might get her thinking.
There's lots of pressure to hook up with a guy. There's a hidden message in our society that a girl is not OK if she is not interested in a relationship with a guy. In fact, for most teenage girls, having a boy friend really boosts their self-confidence. But having a boyfriend shouldn't be the only way to feel happy and secure. Girls who are boy crazy are driven to have a boyfriend as if their lives depended on it. They forget about finding other ways to make themselves feel important and valuable, and they often lose out on developing their interests, talents, and friendships with other girls. Being boy crazy means you're missing out on too many other things. It's like having a one-track mind. You can't see anything else, even yourself.
When a girl has a mad crush on a boy, evidence can inevitably be found on her notebook – her first name written with his last name or a hyphen joining her last name to his. Eventually, however, it goes beyond the notebook. Boy-crazy girls might get up the confidence to send him instant messages and e-mails, and they might go so far as to record love songs and leave them on a boy's answering machine.
Even when it's not with a boy, most teen girls love to chat on the phone or on the Internet, but parents may want to have a heart-to-heart discussion about communication etiquette – especially when boys are involved. Teen girls have become increasingly more assertive than their female role models of an older generation. They are more likely to initiate phone calls, dates and even insist on having sex.
Middle and high school girls know being assertive helps them succeed in leadership roles. Therefore, they might be confused when their assertiveness is not readily accepted by a romantic interest.
Being boy crazy is also often a matter of having too much romantic energy. I have read that some parents would let their daughters watch soap operas or read romantic novels instead of calling their crushes from a cell phone 50 times a day or inventing screen names to talk anonymously to him on the Internet.

premarital sex

The reality is that most teens will have sex. In fact, it's estimated that only one in five children will not have sex while in their teens. And a sexually-active teen who does not use contraception has a startling 90 percent chance.

"Is it ok to have premarital sex?" That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Maybe you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.
Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to have premarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it." In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird to even question it.

But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head that is making you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right or wrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can you know if your "conscience" is right?
Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to. Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24? Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases. Take these statistics into consideration when making your decision.

Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as a primary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experience unnecessary emotional pain!

When we say “premarital sex”, we often focus on the "recreation" aspect of it. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God, our Creator, designed it that way. It may be hard to think of God creating sex, but He did! In His plan, sex was designed for married couples to enjoy the pleasure and excitement of sexual relations. The primary purpose of sex is not recreation, but rather re-creation. In other words, sex is for reproduction. Imagine, for a moment, a world without premarital sex. There would be no sexually-transmitted diseases, there would be no un-wed mothers, there would be no unwanted pregnancies, there would be no abortions, etc. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly abstinence honors God. You all might be shocked with this, but it’s all true, right?