Bad Guys Vs. Nice Boys I

Happy & In-love or Lonely & Single. Whoa... that's pretty intense - I'll tone it down for a sec and give you something to take your mind to off some of the potential negative stuff that you might be thinking about here...
Did you see the final Sex and the City episode where Carrie went to Paris with her lover?
Carrie's in Paris with her boyfriend and begins to wonder if she made the right decision to move away with this man who, deep down inside, she know's doesn't want the same type of life and relationship she does.
As she makes this realization, her ex, “Big”, has flown to Paris from New York looking to reconcile with his lost love after realizing his undying love for Carrie.
And of course, as with all good TV, the two find each other by luck and fate, and Big finally professes his love.
Talk about romantic, intense, suspenseful and full of great drama!
Ok, I thought that might do the trick to warm you back up.
So what does the story of Carrie's love life have to do with YOUR love life?
More than you might think - but we'll get to that.
Why do women pick all the wrong guys?
If you've had your heart broken, been cheated on, or find yourself giving everything you've got inside, to get little or nothing in return, then you know what I'm talking about.
Have you ever asked yourself these questions:
1.What is it about “bad boys” or men that aren't “available” that is attractive to women? And to you? 2. Have you ever dated a guy even though you knew he was a “bad boy” - or found out soon into things? 3. Is there a “nice guy” in your life who would make a great companion but you're not attracted to or share a “connection” with?
Picking the wrong men can get you in all kinds of painful trouble it's hard to get free of.
But for some reason, women don't want the guys who are probably better relationship and love companions.
I'm not going to give you ALL the answers right now, but I'm going to lead you to finding the answers for yourself - as it's a much more effective way of learning.
So.... I'm going to address the last question first about “nice guys”.
Here’s a little something that I found online:
“...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones?” This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be “good girls,” sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning “I must have him!” feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. “In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free,” she says..
Interesting, huh?
There's something to the idea that woman don't feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for “nice guys” who chase after them, dote on them and kiss up to them.
I’m going to end here and continue in my next blog since I’m sort of running out of things to say. So, see you!